Mutual Respect

We all have things in our lives or people for that matter that demand mutual respect pretty basic common thing, most of the time.  For most people differences, attitudes and opinions of things can be put aside but with that being said what happens when someone REALLY OFFENDS someone else?  What happens when you speak up about the offensive behavior?  Generally speaking were all old enough to know we speak up or we shut up or we passive aggressively try and tell the other person what they have done in some huge code word that normally people can't understand instead of using our words!  What I really love is when you tell someone your offended but they continue on down that same path and then they get their own feelings hurt because you no longer bother with them.
Life is built upon mutual respect of others end of story if the relationship no longer serves a purpose (in my personal opinion I ) cut the bullshit.  My honest opinion of these types of situations are  the other person feels the exact same way but doesn't have the courage to do anything about it because then it leaves room for the other person to be hurt.  Dear passive aggressive person you cannot be hurt by a person cutting you off because you failed to see the damage you created on your own and wanted to blame the other person for everything, its not their fault.
If you want respect you have to earn respect end of story you need to understand what the other person needs from you and vice versa if that can't happen then stop trying and know that you can still respect the person on a human level but you don't have to have any interaction with them.  The choice if yours and yours alone.  If you choose to still have interaction then limit it put a boundary up and for goodness sakes let them know everytime when your offended.  Life is way to short to have that negativity eat you up!

**  Remember that when we as a whole choose to use our words instead of code words or anger we get so much more accomplished, its hard to speak up and for most people extremely uncomfortable, remember that speaking up doesn't mean creating a scene and it doesn't have to be right when it happened either but when you calm down remember to talk, also don't constantly point your finger use I got offended at what was said not what YOU said so that the statement stays neutral and the person is understanding more of why you got upset.  let it go after and be mindful the answers will always come to us on things we should and shouldn't have in out lives.  **

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