Have You Ever Noticed Your Own Passive Aggressive Behaviors
The reason I want to talk about this is for the main one that people don't realize how passive aggressive they are. Over the past year Ive noticed Im even passive aggressive and when its done too me I literally loose my marbles because to be completely honest it fucking sucks!
So lets begin with me since Ive brought this up, Ive noticed that if I'm annoyed with someones questions/questioning I will sometimes answer a question with a question this is a passive aggressive behavior. Im working very hard to create a positive life and in doing so sometimes we all need to change things.
Another one I can't stand is the questioning on text messages without the whole damn story, don't question someone because your upset with them be an adult and say what you mean. Tell the whole story and not a half truth too or just the half you want the other person to know because you think they won't find out later, the truth will always come out regardless of if you meant for it too or not!
The ignoring of text messages yup I went there and yes I'm just as guilty. If you ignore someones text message and then you respond hours (we all have jobs and get busy this doesn't pertain to that ) or days later saying opps sorry I didn't see it lets not bullshit around the corner here maybe you didn't want to talk that day or maybe your time was limited and you couldn't tell them because you didn't want to hurt their feelings ect., either way just be honest with the person.
Its the same thing with the plans you make if you honestly have no intention on going to do the thing you said you were going to do then why do you say YES? Just say NO its not that hard and it honestly saves a lot of time and hassle and 99%of the time the person just assumes you're busy you don't need to give anyone a reason if you don't want too but if you do give a reason be 100%truthful so that the person understands why and then they know whats up. In conclusion with this if you say maybe make sure you give the person plenty of notice that you can't attend its the right thing to do.
So the take home message is treat everyone the way you want to be treated and if you have an issue with something speak up use your words like an adult and stop hiding it. If the problem needs to be solved having a conversation face to face is the only way to accomplish this and if the relationship is important too you, you will make the time and effort if not and its always been a negative then let it go and move on but do yourself a favor and let the person know and be honest with them first for they might learn a life lesson.
So lets begin with me since Ive brought this up, Ive noticed that if I'm annoyed with someones questions/questioning I will sometimes answer a question with a question this is a passive aggressive behavior. Im working very hard to create a positive life and in doing so sometimes we all need to change things.
Another one I can't stand is the questioning on text messages without the whole damn story, don't question someone because your upset with them be an adult and say what you mean. Tell the whole story and not a half truth too or just the half you want the other person to know because you think they won't find out later, the truth will always come out regardless of if you meant for it too or not!
The ignoring of text messages yup I went there and yes I'm just as guilty. If you ignore someones text message and then you respond hours (we all have jobs and get busy this doesn't pertain to that ) or days later saying opps sorry I didn't see it lets not bullshit around the corner here maybe you didn't want to talk that day or maybe your time was limited and you couldn't tell them because you didn't want to hurt their feelings ect., either way just be honest with the person.
Its the same thing with the plans you make if you honestly have no intention on going to do the thing you said you were going to do then why do you say YES? Just say NO its not that hard and it honestly saves a lot of time and hassle and 99%of the time the person just assumes you're busy you don't need to give anyone a reason if you don't want too but if you do give a reason be 100%truthful so that the person understands why and then they know whats up. In conclusion with this if you say maybe make sure you give the person plenty of notice that you can't attend its the right thing to do.
So the take home message is treat everyone the way you want to be treated and if you have an issue with something speak up use your words like an adult and stop hiding it. If the problem needs to be solved having a conversation face to face is the only way to accomplish this and if the relationship is important too you, you will make the time and effort if not and its always been a negative then let it go and move on but do yourself a favor and let the person know and be honest with them first for they might learn a life lesson.
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